John R. Corneille, llc
151 W. Lincoln Hwy.
DeKalb, Il. 60115




What is mediation?

Mediation is an efficient and potentially less expensive process designed to help people reach the best agreements for them when separating or divorcing. A trained professional mediator assists you in obtaining the information you need and to focus on the issues that must be resolved in order to separate or divorce as amicably as possible.

What training does someone need to become a mediator?

Most divorce and family mediators have completed a basic (30-40 hour) divorce and family mediation training course. Many mediators apprentice with other mediators or obtain supervision of other mediators for a time after they complete their basic training. In addition, mediators generally pursue additional training in the substantive issues of separation and divorce. Mr. Corneille has completed a 40-hour divorce and family law training course at Northwestern University. In addition, he has been a licensed attorney in the State of Illinois since 1984 and a significant part of his practice has concentrated on family law matters.

Is a mediated agreement binding?

If you are involved in a divorce or another family issue that is filed in court, any agreement you reach may be filed with the court. You should speak with your lawyer about how this works and what your options are. The court generally reviews the agreement to assure that it conforms to the standards that have been established (such as the child support guidelines) and where it does not, whether special circumstances exist that should be considered.

If your dispute is not filed in court, the agreement is usually considered to be a contract. Depending on the nature of the agreement and the dispute, if there is a breach of the contract, you might be able to file a claim with the court.

Is mediation confidential?

Mediation is a private process, not open to the public. You will be asked to sign a confidentiality agreement before beginning mediation. The mediator is bound by law to keep confidential what is discussed in mediation.

If I use mediation, will I need to go to court?

If you are using mediation in order to obtain a divorce, you will have to file in court for your divorce. However, if you are able to reach a mutually agreeable resolution to all of the property, financial, custody, parenting and other issues that you are attempting to resolve, and the court accepts your settlement, it is unlikely that you will have to make many court appearances. Generally, the more you do outside of the court to decide how you want to handle your divorce, the better.

Will I need a lawyer in order to use mediation?

In divorce cases, mediators will recommend that each spouse be represented by his or her own attorney. However, by using mediation, it is likely that you will use fewer legal services and that those you use will be different than if you did not use mediation. Your lawyer will provide you with guidance and legal counsel and can draft documents for filing with the court. Even when the mediator is a lawyer, the mediator is not acting as a lawyer and cannot represent either person in the divorce.

What should I know about a mediator before choosing one?

You should approach hiring a mediator just like you would any other professional, such as a physician, lawyer or accountant.

Generally, you should obtain the following information:

  • Training, experience and background of the mediator;
  • Experience or knowledge in mediating the type of issues you have;
  • Fees charged and how fees are divided among the parties to the mediation;
  • Professional memberships.

Most important is whether you are comfortable with the mediator's style and approach to the process.

How long will mediation take?

Because each separation and divorce is different, it is hard to predict exactly how long your mediation will last. In general, a full divorce, including custody issues, division of property and assets, takes between three and eight sessions. In addition, the mediator will take time to prepare a Memorandum of Understanding, outlining all of the agreements that you have reached through the mediation process. Mediation is voluntary and any party, including the mediator, may end it at any time.

How long are the sessions?

Generally, mediation sessions are scheduled to last from 1 - 2 hours, depending on the couple's needs and available time. Some couples prefer longer sessions while others find that shorter sessions are more productive.

Will we meet weekly with the mediator?

At the initial mediation session, you will identify the issues that need to be decided in order to separate or divorce. What these issues are, how urgent the decisions are, and how quickly you wish to proceed will determine on what schedule you meet with the mediator.

How much will mediation cost?

Your mediation costs will be based on an hourly fee. This fee will be charged for all mediation sessions time spent reviewing and drafting documents, telephone consultations, and consultations by the mediator with your attorneys or other advisors in the process. The cost of mediation has the potential to be significantly less than if you each hired lawyers to represent you in your divorce without using mediation.

Assuming that you meet with a mediator five times for two hours each time, and there is an additional two hours of the mediator's time for the drafting of the Memorandum of Understanding, the cost of mediation at $150 per hour would be a total of $ 1,800, which is generally split between you and your spouse. Often times, a "retainer" fee (lump sum payable at the first meeting) is required. This retainer is applied toward the total cost of the mediation.

Who is present at the mediation session?

You and your spouse will both be present at the mediation session. On occasion, the mediator may wish to speak with each of you privately (and confidentially). Lawyers occasionally attend these sessions. Either you or your lawyer may wish that that he or she do so, but a lawyer's presence is not required.

What information must I disclose to my spouse and to the mediator?

All financial information must be disclosed as part of the mediation process. The mediator will work with you to determine your income, expenses, assets, liabilities, retirement funds and other financial information that is required as part of a legal divorce. Should information be withheld during the mediation process, any agreement reached may not be valid.

What is discussed during the mediation?

In a typical mediation, the following issues must be addressed in order to generate an agreement that may be submitted with the court:

  •  Children: Parenting responsibility and time; living arrangements; legal and physical custody; insurance, education, support and many other issues.
  • Assets and Debts: How these will be divided
  • Property: Marital home, cars, other personal property
  • Spousal Support: Whether there will be spousal support, in what amount and for how long
  • Insurance and Medical Expenses
  • Tax Issues

Contact John for more information.